Welcome to Raw Reflections

This is where curiosity gets loud, opinions get honest, and no topic has to fit neatly into one box. Raw Reflections is a collection of deep dives, personal essays, cultural commentary, and the thoughts I probably spent way too long analyzing before turning them into a blog post.

Here, I write about true crime and courtroom drama, psychology and human behavior, motherhood and identity, relationships, pop culture, sports, media, and the experiences that shape the way we see the world. Some posts are heavily researched. Others are deeply personal. A lot of them are both.

If you like thoughtful analysis, strong opinions, uncomfortable questions, and writing that refuses to pretend life is simple—you’re in the right place.

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Objectophilia: When Attraction Crosses Into the World of Objects

From a man in love with his car to a woman who married the Berlin Wall, objectophilia—or object sexuality—pushes the limits of what we consider love. Psychologists don’t call it a disorder, but I can’t help questioning how falling for a lamp isn’t delusional. Let’s break down the science, the receipts, and my raw take.

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“You’re So Mature for Your Age”: How Infantilization & Idealization Warp Up

“You’re so mature for your age.”

It sounds like a compliment, but it often masks a deeper wound. When adults praise children for being mature, they’re often praising trauma responses—silence, emotional suppression, self-sacrifice. In this post, I break down how infantilization and idealization can warp our sense of self, and what it means to reclaim your identity on your own terms.

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Gaslighting Explained: How Abusers Rewire Your Sense of Reality

Gaslighting isn’t just someone lying to you — it’s someone convincing you to lie to yourself. In this post, I’m breaking down the psychology behind gaslighting, how abusers use it to make you question your reality, and how to take your power back when everything starts to feel like your fault. You’re not crazy. You were conditioned to forget who you are — and now it’s time to remember.

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“But They’re Not That Bad”: How Minimization Keeps You in Toxic Situations

We’re taught to let things go, stay calm, and not “make it a big deal.” But what happens when that mindset becomes a form of self-gaslighting? This post unpacks the psychology of minimization — how we downplay mistreatment, why we do it, and how it traps us in toxic cycles. If you’ve ever said, “It wasn’t that bad,” this one’s for you.

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