Hyper-independence isn’t strength—it’s survival. It’s the trauma-born belief that needing anyone makes you weak, so you do everything yourself until it breaks you. In this post, I unpack what hyper-independence really is, where it comes from, and what it’s been quietly stealing from me.

We glorify healing, but we don’t talk about what it means to be powerful in the middle of it. This piece is for the ones still unraveling, still figuring it out, still showing up anyway. You don’t need to be healed to be heard. You don’t have to be whole to matter. There is strength in your survival right now—even in the parts that still hurt.

I didn’t become self-aware by choice—I became self-aware because I had to. I’ve been through the kind of trauma that rewires your brain and forces you to question everything. But instead of letting it destroy me, I studied it. I studied myself. This is the story of how I survived, how I evolved, and how I became someone I can finally be proud of.