They always ask why she didn’t say no. Why she didn’t leave. Why she didn’t tell someone. But what they never ask is: why did he think he could kill her? This post is a wake-up call. It’s not just about rejection—it’s about survival. About growing up watching violence. About the women who said no and died anyway. About the system that keeps failing us. If you’ve ever blamed a victim, read this. If you’ve ever been one, this is for you.

— Trinity Barnette

Women are told to be sexy—but not for themselves. To be seen—but only in a way that’s palatable. In this post, I dive into the feminine double bind: the toxic, exhausting contradiction of being hypersexualized, then shamed for it. This one’s real, raw, and deeply personal.