Money isn’t just currency to me—it’s safety, identity, and emotional control. I grew up fearing instability, and now I chase security like my life depends on it… because once, it did. This isn’t about greed. It’s about survival.

Hyper-independence isn’t strength—it’s survival. It’s the trauma-born belief that needing anyone makes you weak, so you do everything yourself until it breaks you. In this post, I unpack what hyper-independence really is, where it comes from, and what it’s been quietly stealing from me.

The question isn’t “Why didn’t she leave?” The real question is: “Why did he feel entitled to hurt her in the first place?” Survivors don’t owe us perfect exits. Abusers owe us accountability. Here are the real numbers—and the real conversation.